already Marina Castañeda, in his book The Homosexual Experience, highlighted the fact that some well-meaning therapists tended to treat homosexual couples if they were heterosexual, under the banner of preventing discrimination and not from the therapeutic act of social stigma. However, the strategy is not one hundred percent functional. Even
to 40 ...
is not a novelty that a hetero couple has a different relationship dynamics to that of a gay couple, and it is not as one consisting of two men that another two women. They were all very likely as heterosexual and educated in a setting straight: If you are a woman, you perform as such embarazándote, being mother and having children, if you're male, you provider plays realizarte being male and in charge.
The followers of psychoanalysis would say about their turn to be sadistic and masochistic other, that is, assets and other liabilities. This works when he and she are joined in pairs, each with their established roles, and there is no conflict, unless for reasons of personality or education between the two question any of these guidelines. Until then everything is balanced.
The conflict comes when a member of the hetero couples give for not wanting to fulfill his role and reveals, wanting to be as active as it is supposed to be the man, or as fragile as it is supposed to be the woman, example. There will be competition, you want the exclusivity of the attribute that corresponds to his kind and one hers, not to mention the woman who wants to be protected, because it taught him not want to protect him and face the uncertainty of being descobijada; while he, who was brought up to be "the boss" will not want to delegate the decision because it would make him feel less masculine, less of a man, following the example.
folly or neurosis is not on their side, it's just that we are so deeply conditioned by the culture that we take from family, friends, media and so on, which is extremely slow process of freeing one of the stereotypes gender. The woman will not be less women and men will not want to be less of a man, because if so, society would punish them with ridicule, the silent or discrediting net.
A gay couple is almost equal. Educated to be like they are supposed to be men and women, two men who form a couple want both be The provider, decision maker and protector, two women in couples want to be the one that nurtures, THE maternal, LA cherishes the other. Not getting the satisfaction of this emotional need to fulfill their gender role, creates the risk of undermining the image they have of themselves and the extent to which they want for themselves.
As with heterosexual couples, between two gay people, competition comes from the ideas of gender, however, while the first question arises when the role they were determined to follow in the second starts from the beginning and does not end until that question the same role. Therefore, the conflict came from the competition is more important in a gay couple in their heterosexual counterparts.
On the other hand, is not the same view a gay couple than a straight, right? Being gay means being poorly received, the whispers of the people and discrediting stigma and to a lesser or greater degree. A homosexual is, for one thing, someone who uses sex only to find pleasure, without addressing the reproductive functions that their sexuality is inherent. At least so say the voices right.
Here in Mexico is supplied, for example. I know very good jokes against them. Not to mention the National Ación Party, to which belongs our H. President and the Church, in his pious efforts to make us good men and women neutered, asexual and extremely frustrated to be. Just being.
Sexuality has been and will probably be topic taboo and embarrassment within the framework of the intrinsic embarrassment that keeps the human being as human being. The only acceptable excuse that morality is accepted for sexual reproduction, and it appears inadmissible upon exercise of the sexuality just for pleasure. Often the cause of all sins: pleasure. There are still some who do not understand that pleasure comes after you die, in a paradise of white cotton candy that may exist and that perhaps we are waiting, and meanwhile, it is our moral duty to burn and bleed in this valley tears that is life ...
... and so want us to have mental health?
Homosexuals are not looking favorably by that sinful hedonism attributed to them by the unnatural in acting, and all those who have been educated in a culture equal to or parallel to the Judeo-Christian, will apply stigma in small or large extent. Gay men and women born in a culture well, so exercise was not spared the stigma and discrimination against other gays ... and themselves.
And you can handle the speech, be aware of the fault and argue about it sure, but emotions will take too long to adapt. In the same way as a man can know holding the spider in hand will not hurt, does not remove the anxiety felt a tightness in his chest, or as he argues with conviction against sexism is going to blush when a woman of her purse to pay the taxi being fell the. Reason and emotion. It is always easier to work the first than the second, and always the first will be the way to effect change on an emotional level. The spider holding or rejecting sexism are not the work already completed, they need to work their emotions, but have already a good road trip.
same thing happens with women or gay men. You probably know that being gay is not bad ... neither good and there only is unrelated to any axiology. You may know that are as valuable as anyone and maybe more, depending on their individual characteristics. Likely to dominate the whole speech, but still need to have sex with the lights off, or even refuse to say they are openly gay. Reason and emotion, the difference between knowing it and feel it.
Thus, within a homo couples often have such discrimination to the other and to himself, leading to coerce the other when it shows "too much" his homosexuality and to repress the expression itself, pear not seem "as" homosexual .
is this Under which leads to the gay community in the world to be segmented into sub-groups: leather, queens, rubber and so on, where a group discriminate against others on the extent to which they express their homosexuality. In general, as Goffman would say in his essay on stigma, which have the object of her more evident stigma or notoriety are placed at the bottom of the hierarchy, while remaining on top of prestige to those who "are note "to a lesser extent.
... in a gay couple a dynamic competition exists much stronger than a straight gender by mentioning the first few paragraphs and the stigma, where either try to be who unless you note that he is gay. So, in psychotherapy, you can not treat as a couple than another, because each has subtle characteristics that differentiate them and very specific needs.
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