And all this, who say you?, Ok, regardless of how you call, I will not say too much and far beyond those phrases and so terribly common already leaving say something, who are you, how you define who you are and especially how to define the way you feel?
few years ago, when I decided to make the argument to become finally a full-fledged psychologist, I was particularly motivated by scratching a whim over the issue of identity. Later, during the development of this grounded theory research on the gay issue, I was surprised at the extent that this simple concept is, not only for its theoretical beauty, for theoretical anyone serves, but by the possibility that to give explanations about what no one asks, but we all move ... somehow.
For example, do you ever stopped to think how many things in life we \u200b\u200bsafe? or please tell me a truth that is absolutely irrefutable.
Ok, maybe I have become very difficult. I am not aware that the earth is round, but I believe it so I'm told. Is the official version. Neither I know that Japan is in Asia, I have never gone to check. I'm not sure Cortés, Colón and Jerome have been, or Socrates, or Atlantis, but something that I can guarantee with absolute conviction that I am here writing to you to read this. I was also a man that I am taller than the average, older than some, younger than others ... And even when everything in the world is uncertain, although nothing is safe and all my convictions could deteriorate, yet I know that there is some truth to dry: it's me who is there, trying to understand what happens.
Give me a lever and I will move the world. The same goes with certainty.
Ah, but can not be so simple. And Heraclitus said that the only constant in the universe is change itself. Pantha rei, everything changes. You can not step twice in the same river because the river has changed mutable water at the same moment that you've left behind and, worse, you stop being that it had entered moments before in the warm waters. You become as you read my lines, you become something different to scroll through time, through space, by the experiences we live. The Tao te
change.
always the same equation, but the variables change, the formula becoming increasingly more precise, perfect, even wiser. Do you notice you as you changed from yesterday to today? There are the same, do not think alike, or feel the same way. Will mature?, Did you grow up?, I do not know, but the definition has changed and you make yourself so has. Your identity changed and will continue.
ID's that you say you are now, and what they want become. A single man of middle age. That is my case. However, when I'm married, if I do, that definition that I have of me and will not serve, and I will be forced to leave and make me one that I look good. Have you noticed how does that feel? When you realize that what they thought, and you are not over.
All we have is that we are sure we know who we are, and if we change we will adjust our identity, as soon as possible, to our new way of being and living. The child becomes an uncertain teenager, a student must now look for work, the bachelor is to be married, the expatriate is no longer the peasant from his parents. In each case it is giving up being the we were and transform into something new, or stay pretending that nothing has changed and we are still so in reality, there will be more, so we do not need to be more.
In the final analysis, we are only what we do to change who we are.
must resign and let die the skin no longer use, that our fathers knew, our friends, our rivals. But giving up is not easy, and often very painful and deeply frightening.
That is the identity, a process of construction, freehand, our greatest work: ourselves. Where it takes us, we choose to transform us and that we hold no loving skins loosen. Sometimes it is quiet and slow, as the growing day by day, others are sudden and violent as the death of her husband that from now on will be a widow, but always let go, drop the weights for the weight of what we have been not Double back and weary spirit.
What are you changing now?
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